Exquisite Dilemmas

An Exquisite Dilemma is when what one partner needs is exactly what the other cannot tolerate. Some Examples  Tanya has a thing about “running out of stuff” or not having …

Semi-Structured Activities

Semi-structured activities ease difficult social, relational and emotional situations by allowing you to focus on something other than the anxiety-provoking elements of the social setting, the relational tension or your …

Doing the Hard Stuff

You know how you’ve been meaning to do this thing for a while. It’s not even that big a deal. Anyone else would have done it easily. Actually it may …

Calming Your System

Feeling anxious?  Agitated?  Frenzied?  Upset with yourself?  Someone else?  Life in general?  Finding it hard to think straight?  Need to calm down enough to figure out where to go from …

Getting Oneself To Do Hard Stuff

You know how you’ve been meaning to do this thing for a while. It’s not even that big a deal. Anyone else would have done it easily. Actually it may be something you really need to do, know you should, want to – in a way. But don’t. Just can’t, it seems.

Below is a list of strategies I have accumulated over the years. Please feel free to add to the list, make comments and to give feedback on what works.