Illicit Relationship Self Test

The general term "illicit relationship" is used because there are so many traps for our romantic motives. The problem may be romance with a forbidden other, cybersex, or excessive use of romantic chat rooms. If you have been looking for love in all the wrong places, the tools available on this site will help you discover what you really want for this one life you have to live and how to get it.

If you are unsure about how serious your problem is, consider these questions:

1. Does the illicit relationship interfere with activities you judge to be important (e.g., school, work, sleep)?
2. Do you continue to engage the relationship even though it causes more pain than pleasure?
3. Do you choose fantasy of the illicit relationship over sexual relations with a human?
4. Has your intimate relationship been harmed by the illicit relationship?
5. Has a loved one requested or demanded that you end the illicit relationship?
6. Have you lost a genuine relationship because of the illicit relationship use?

If you have tried to change this behavior and failed, click here to determine which trap(s) have got you so that you can begin to develop an escape strategy that works for you. If you recognize you have a problem but have never tried to change, do some research before making any commitments to change - failed attempts do more harm than good. Several sources of information are available here:

• E-Book
• Soft Cover Book [available April 2007]
• CD-ROM [available March 2007]
• Downloadable Treatment Program [available March 2007]