the puzzle of voluntary self-sabotage has a solution!
An invitation to know yourself by researching the sequence of cause-and-effect from both the outside and the inside
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The PIG (the Problem of Immediate Gratification) is a defining feature of incentive use disorders. Individuals suffering the negative consequences of their excessive appetites want immediate gratification of the desire …
The descent to Hell is easy; the gates stand open night and day; but to reclaim the slope, and escape to the upper air, this is labor. – Virgil
Do not become attached to the things you like;
do not maintain aversion to the things you dislike.
Sorrow, fear, and bondage come from one’s likes and dislikes.
–Buddha
It is often possible to discern a structure to people’s difficulties
in which internal states and external events
continually create the conditions for the reoccurrence of each other.
–Paul Wachtel
God’s error was forbidding the apple.
If He would have forbidden the serpent,
then Adam would have eaten the serpent.
–George Bernard Shaw
[twg_gpo_button] My academic training in cognitive and neural sciences along with the more expensive education earned over 3 decades of helping my clients escape the self-sabotaging traps they have created …
[twg_gpo_button] I am a psychologist who works with those who can afford my fee. My clients tend to be impressive individuals who generally accomplish what they set out to accomplish; …
You know how you’ve been meaning to do this thing for a while. It’s not even that big a deal. Anyone else would have done it easily. Actually it may be something you really need to do, know you should, want to – in a way. But don’t. Just can’t, it seems.
Below is a list of strategies I have accumulated over the years. Please feel free to add to the list, make comments and to give feedback on what works.
For every man there exists a bait
which he cannot resist swallowing
–Friedrich Nietzsche
No temptation can ever be measured by the value of its object.
–Sidonie Colette