The Puppy and the Puppy Trainer
There’s a world of difference between a dog that is off the leash and a dog that is trained to be off the leash — Don Sullivan To explain why …
Between Stimulus and Response
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. — Viktor E. …
Recursive Traps
“It is often possible to discern a structure to people’s difficulties, in which internal states and external events continually create the conditions for the recurrence of each other.” — Paul …
Nietzsche’s Perspectivism
Some clerics are certain that their religion is more valid than all the others. The same certainty that my perspective is correct and others are wrong holds for sports fans, …
PIANO NOTES
These are my thoughts and reactions as I play the piano. I think you can recognize in them the self-talk and self-reflection we all experience as we perform and put …
FREAKED OUT ABOUT AGING
I’m assuming I’m not the only one who experiences a “Yikes!” as we age through the 50’s, 60’s and beyond. I’ll be sharing some of my thoughts, anxieties and strategies …
YOUR SURVIVAL CHILD/BOSSY GIRL
I think there is a Survival Child within each of us – the part of us that emerges with great intensity when you feel emotionally threatened. Or the part of …
LOOKING AT OURSELVES AND OUR STORIES
Who do we spend more time talking to and listening to than ourselves? Here are some self-reflections along with those I’ve heard from others about what goes on inside. Understanding …
Adjusting and Adapting: Which is More Your Style?
When one of life’s situations isn’t as you would wish, are you more likely to: Adapt yourself to the ways things are by – altering your perspective; soothing yourself by …
What Am I Supposed to Be Doing With My Life?
This existential question comes up a great deal in therapy as though our destiny is written somewhere and we just need to figure it out. Rather than the idea that …