Adjusting and Adapting: Which is More Your Style?
When one of life’s situations isn’t as you would wish, are you more likely to: Adapt yourself to the ways things are by – altering your perspective; soothing yourself by …
What Am I Supposed to Be Doing With My Life?
This existential question comes up a great deal in therapy as though our destiny is written somewhere and we just need to figure it out. Rather than the idea that …
Therapy Observations 2
Motivation Therapy is so very often about motivation – how to get yourself to do this or stop that; or get your partner to. In recent months, I’ve seen a …
THERAPY OBSERVATIONS
These are some of the challenges and patterns from therapy sessions that I find myself thinking about: wondering what is helpful and wanting to know what others do. My Broken …
BEING ON A DIFFERENT PAGE
Being on a Different Page is a Very Difficult Situation, especially so because it is not recognized as such. The tremendous threat it holds for relationships is not realized. It …
EXQUISITE DILEMMAS
An Exquisite Dilemma is when what one partner needs is exactly what the other cannot tolerate. Tanya has a thing about “running out of stuff” or not having what she …
RAGE AND OTHER OVERREACTIONS
Toby came in today feeling baffled and ashamed of the rage episode she experienced over the weekend. Her reaction was so our of proportion to the situation, she said. She …
Exquisite Dilemmas
An Exquisite Dilemma is when what one partner needs is exactly what the other cannot tolerate. Some Examples Tanya has a thing about “running out of stuff” or not having …
Including Yourself in the Equation
“Remember to include yourself in the equation”, I am often telling women who are very good at figuring out how to address the problems of others or to accommodate their …
Pulling Up Into Adult
Pulling Up Into Adult offers a physical shift that gives you a different perspective of the outside, different feelings on the inside, as well as a different appearance to others. …